More and more people are deciding to write their own wedding vows in order to put into their own words how they feel about the one they love and to tell their friends and family how much that other person means to them. When it comes to the reality of actually writing them, things can get a little tricky; how do you put your emotions into words and your pen to paper? How do you encapsulate how you really feel?
For most of us this can be a daunting task, so if you’re currently writing your vows with a blank sheet of paper staring back at you, here are seven useful tips for making them all you want them to be from the team at our wedding venue in Cornwall.
The main and most important point is to be true to yourself – don’t try to be something you’re not. Your partner is marrying you, for you, and will want to feel that your words are genuine. It’s important to speak from your heart, they’re words you’ll remember forever.
Reflect on your relationship
Think about the reasons why you are marrying them and what has brought you to this moment. Look back on your favourite memories, your many ‘firsts’, and the moment you realised they were ‘the one’.
Buy a notepad
Writing isn’t something that comes naturally to many of us, so sitting down for a set period of time and forcing yourself to write vows under pressure (and potentially at the last minute) won’t make it enjoyable or what you want them to be, so try having a notepad on hand so that should an idea pop into your head, or some words, you’ll be able to write them down without any stress.
Google is your new best friend
The good news is that you’re not the first person to write your own vows and whilst you’ll not want to take someone else’s words, they can provide a great deal of inspiration. Head on a search to gain some ideas and always give Pinterest a visit; it’s an absolute goldmine when it comes to wedding ideas.
Practice makes perfect
Public speaking can fill some people with dread, so in order to avoid any fumbling or complete anxiety attacks, plenty of practice is vital. The more you practice the more natural and at ease you will be when the time comes to deliver your vows.
Share with someone who knows you both
It’s a good idea to do a run-through with a trusted friend who’ll be able to give you honest advice. It might be that they are able to add to your material, or tell you take something out if they feel you are perhaps oversharing with your audience!
Be honest with your partner. What can you promise them you’ll do throughout your marriage? Whether it’s to always buy their favourite coffee, to stand by them through thick and thin, or to stop singing along badly to the radio, make it something that means something to your both!
We wish you good luck with your vows and if you’d like to have a chat with us about having your big day at our wedding venue in Cornwall please do give us a call on 01288 352352.