If you’re currently planning your wedding day then deciding on who you’re gong to invite can be a tricky, and sometimes political task. You want to avoid upsetting anyone, yet it’s your big day so you’ll want to make sure you can share it with those people that mean a lot to you, whether it’s your friends, family or other loved-ones.
Here are a few helpful tips to ensure you get everyone you love to be there on your big day…
Decisions on Family
Whilst you’ll of course want to share your special day with immediate family, the question of where to draw the line can sometimes be a difficult one to answer. Do you extend it past your aunties or cousins to those family members you’ve not seen in several years, or do you keep it to those closest to you?
The best rule here is to be consistent so as to avoid any offence; if you’re going all out then include them all, and if you’re wanting a smaller and more intimate day, perhaps draw the line a little closer to home, but always have the same rules for everyone and bear in mind the idiosyncrasies that each of our families have!
Who’s partner will be coming?
The question of including partners has been thrust into the spotlight in recent times with Pippa Middleton coining the phrase ‘no ring, no bring’ at her recent wedding. So where are you going to stand on partners at your wedding?
Whilst it’s going to be a no-brainer your family are going to bring their wives and girlfriends, it can become somewhat of a grey area when it comes to your friend and their brand-new boyfriend you’re yet to meet or speak to. Be sure to be clear and consistent on your approach, as well as on your invite, to avoid any confusion or upset.
Could geography be a hurdle?
Whether you decide to hold your wedding at your local church, or on the other side of the world, there is going to be some element of travel required for your guests. Before now, we have had a bride and groom fly all the way from Australia to hold their special day here at Launcells. They were slightly nervous in choosing native England as their wedding destination, in case certain friends or family wouldn’t make the trip.
In reality, those who really count will of course make the effort for you both. Whether you’re celebrating close to home or not, send out those save the dates and if a friend declines due to distance then they have freed up an invite which could go to someone who wouldn’t miss it for the world!
Are they a co-worker or a friend?
Many of us will have had this dilemma with our own wedding; you spend a lot of time with them, but do you invite your co-workers to your big day? It can sometimes feel as if it will be awkward if we don’t, or as if there’s an obligation to send an invite, when in reality that pressure often isn’t actually there.
If they’re not close to you in the office, the likelihood is that they’re not expecting an automatic invite and are also hopefully unlikely to take offence. Invite those that mean the most to you, and those with whom you share life outside of the office walls, or if you feel they’re just co-workers, then keep consistent and tell them all about it on your return from work!
Can you imagine your big day without them?
The final point is probably the most important one of them all; can you imagine your big day without them? Are they someone who you’ve shared some of your fondest memories with? Would it seem like someone is missing if you didn’t invite them? If the answer to those questions is yes, then you know that they need to be there on your special day.
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